Gwyneth Paltrow Talks Aging, Acting and Recession Fears at Goop Event

Gwyneth Paltrow Talks Aging, Acting and Recession Fears at Goop Event

Ninety Goop ites flew from as far as Georgia, New York and Texas to attend Gwyneth Patrow ‘s Goop Immersive Wellness Experience at Santa Monica Proper Hotel on Sunday, October. 16.

The $1,200 invite-only event kicked off at 8 a.m. with Drea Wheeler’s “Flowlicious” core workout and a beauty master class with Ivan Pol of The Beauty Sandwich (clients include Ana de Armas, Lily James and Sydney Sweeney), who showed guests how to use Augustinus Bader products and facial massage to create a “snatched face” with sculpted cheeks, defined jawlines and lifted brows.

Makeup artist Jillian Dempsey (married to actor Patrick Dempsey) provided touch-ups with her namesake product line, alongside bra fittings by Cuup, 24-karat gold ear seeding by Vie Healing, B12 shots by Hydration Room and Therabody facial massages. Paleo Puffs (and Bjorn Qorn) were available to snack on and a super-healthy lunch featuring cauliflower steak, honey-roasted potatoes, branzino and Chicken Paillard. Hollywood dermatologist Dr. Ava Shamban, Chicago-based plastic surgery Julius Few, and Nigma Talib, a L.A.-based Naturopathic doctor, discussed anti-aging topics. Jean GodfreyJune, Goop beauty director, was there to discuss these topics.

The highlight of the day was Paltrow’s 45-minute “Ask Me Anything” Q&A where she got personal about turning 50 last month, her 18-year-old daughter Apple starting college, her future acting plans and more.

“My daughter is here for the weekend from college, so she’s returning this afternoon,” Paltrow said. She was wearing a warm oversized G wool cardigan layered over a blush-toned G. It’s been wonderful having her home. Personally, I’m very happy. It’s stressful to work. The economy is a disaster. I worry about next year and how severe the recession will be. Last night, I was up worrying about everything at 3:00 AM

Below, THR shares some highlights from Paltrow’s talk.

Paltrow Felt “Amazing Liberation” When Turning 50

“When I was turning 40, I was having a bit of a midlife crisis around it, and I was in the midst of a big transition. I knew I wanted to leave my marriage and return to the United States. In a larger context, there was a lot going on in my life. Also I think that transition is particularly hard for a woman because of what society tells us about turning 40 — in some way, that when we lose reproductive viability, we’re no longer desirable or important or visible. These messages are so ingrained in us that it caused me anxiety. What does it mean to not feel fuckable, pretty, or able to have a child? It was difficult for me to move out of this younger paradigm. And then I turned 40 and I was like, ‘Oh, this is great, I don’t know what I was so worried about.’

“Turning 50, I felt this amazing liberation start to come. I am now a better person. I’ve made many mistakes in my life, but I’ve also achieved so many things. This is my essay in Goop .. If I feel that I did something wrong, how can I correct my course? I am aware of my mistakes and I can think positively. They are now in focus. As my fear of confrontation. There is also a real fear of hurting someone’s feelings. This has caused me more problems than just one honest conversation. What are the choices I want to make with what is left of me, which is probably shorter than my life?

“Also, it’s like, i just don’t care a fuck!” I used to care so much about what people thought. I can still remember the first Goop podcast interview I did with Oprah. We were talking about getting older, and she was like, ‘Just wait ’til you turn 60. It’s amazing! So I look forward. You can’t get caught up in the opinions of others. Being close to yourself means you know yourself and you love yourself. There are no cracks for people to get in there and harm you

Paltrow Says She Stopped Reading Press About Herself When She Was 22 Years Old

“Before Goop, I was a celebrity in the culture, and I had to make a decision to stop being judged by the public. … I stopped reading press about myself when I was 22 years old. There is a part that’s tender and an ego part. These parts are hurt when people don’t like us or say, “I hate what your doing.” I hate what your stand for. Being a famous actress was a great way for me to start this role. I began to talk about things that were not mainstream, such as my attempts to get divorced in a pleasant way or my journey to acupuncture. My first cookbook was gluten-free. It was also dairy-free.

“I saw a pattern. I’m introducing something that makes people uncomfortable. Why should I make that about myself? It’s their discomfort. If I am honest and do my job, why should I care? I had to learn how to separate these things. A therapist also told me that if you feel hurt by someone’s comments on social media, or any other platform, it could be a judgment that you are already holding against yourself.

Paltrow Isn’t Failing

“Do you have any plans to return to acting?” It’s not really. It’s not something I miss, which I consider an interesting data point. It’s not something I long for when I think back to the back half my life. I don’t miss it. I don’t know what’s happening in the movie industry. I’m too focused on other things. I did promise my mom that if this job is not for me, I will do a play. Never say never. You can find the right person for you at any time in your life. I’ve lived long enough to realize that there are no assumptions about your life, who you are, and who you’re going. So I’m open for whatever happens. But I don’t expect it. Right now, I say no to everything. It would be impossible for me to do it right now because of my job. But you never know

Paltrow Reflects On Daughter Starting College

“Now, [kids] have the same societal programming as we do. They’re also being bombarded with images on Instagram about what they should look like and how they should feel. This conversation has been a frequent one with my daughter. I realized that it was a losing battle to say, “Don’t be on Instagram” and “Don’t see your friends on Snap Maps.” It’s almost like when my mom would come into my room while I was listening to N.W.A. I would say, “What kind of music?” It’s not a melody. I was like, “No, it’s Rap.” And she was thinking that I was going to listen jazz or some other weird shit. These are things that happen over and over that we have to accept. They won’t get off social media unless there is a miracle or armageddon.

“It’s dangerous for their self-esteem. So I talk with Apple about things that make her feel connected with herself. I get to know her when she tells me she’s reading an interesting book. She will feel more confident in herself if she has an inner life. She has had a significant function and growth step since going to college. I try to take advantage of every opportunity she offers me to talk to me about her experiences as a new person on campus. As an emerging adult .”

, I try to respect her.

Paltrow felt like she “Let everyone down” after her first marriage didn’t work

“I believe that second marriages are the key to all successful marriages. You’re in trouble if you don’t find your second marriage in the first marriage. A marriage must have multiple marriages. My first marriage [with Coldplay’s Chris Martin] didn’t work. It was a huge failure for me. I felt like I had let everyone down. It’s still hard. My son came home from his dads a couple of weeks ago and said, “It’s just difficult for me that I don’t get to be there with you guys at all times.” So we went out to dinner last week! I have disappointed my kids, you know. It won’t be the same if I stay with their dad. But that marriage didn’t work out. I was fortunate enough to meet Brad [Falchuk], my now-husband, and that we met at an age when our values, what we wanted, and our interests really aligned. It is something we do really, really hard to keep.”

“Being alive is just an accumulation of lessons that we learn through pain. I felt a pang when Moses said it to me the other night. Then I thought, “I’ve hurt my children and it’s my fault.” Or, I could take this as: “Thank you so much” This is important feedback that I need to hear and I can make changes. I love Dad; let’s do more together’. I believe it is more about a child feeling heard and acknowledged than making everything okay. I always say we’re no longer a couple, but I want us to stay a family.”

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