How the 7 Ps of Personal Power Can Help You Find Fulfillment
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People love to complain everywhere. Many complain about their lives, their careers, and their relationships.
I’ve fallen into these traps before, but then I discovered seven principles that can help me achieve success and happiness in everything I do. They have not failed me yet.
Truly successful people get up and start each day filled with purpose. They envision a future for their work or life that is different from today. They then get to work creating it or bringing about it — not waiting for it.
People with purpose know what they want from life. They know who they want and what they are capable of doing. A vision board, mission statement or list of values is a great way to identify your purpose. Then, commit to bringing them to life. This will help you be proactive and not reactive.
Once you have found your purpose, it is crucial that you spend your time on what is most important to you. Fulfilled people have a high level of congruence between their words and their actions. Truly happy people are committed to their goals every day.
If your purpose statements focus on your relationships with your family, fitness, and advancement at work, but you don’t take consistent steps towards these things, you will naturally feel unhappy. I have found that consistency over short-term intensity is better than short-term intensity. It has been a necessity for me to plan my week ahead with the help a planner or calendar. It’s easy to allow daily distractions and interruptions to get in the way of your most important life activities. You can keep control of your day by having a plan and sticking to it.
Many people are motivated at three levels. Fear is the lowest level. We do things because of fear of what might happen if it doesn’t. The second level of motivation is obligation (or duty). We do things because it feels right. The highest level is love (or passion). Instead of feeling obliged or required to do something, we do it because we feel like we should.
The third type of motivation is intrinsic and not extrinsic. It tends to be easier to maintain. At a young age, my father taught me to find a job that doesn’t feel like work. Also, don’t do work you don’t love. People feel happier when they do things they love. Burnout is common when we spend too much time doing things that don’t interest us. Jobs we love give us energy. Jobs we don’t like drain our energy. It’s not something that only a few can do. Anyone can have a job they love.
This is about putting in the hours. Celebrities are often viewed as if they have something we don’t. We’ll say things such as “They were born with it” or “They just got lucky.” ”
I believe we enjoy telling ourselves these stories to let us off the hook for not doing what we want. The truth is that most successful people weren’t lucky. They put in a lot of work and effort to perfect their craft. Several NBA stars shoot 100 perfect free throws consecutively before they leave practice. Why is it so difficult to put in the hours? It’s often because society tells us that things should be easy. There is no shortcut to success. It takes a lot of practice and willpower. This means that you must be willing to fail, make errors, and learn from them.
It has been said that only two things can stop us from happiness: living in our past and watching others. Focusing on the present and only what we can control is a powerful way to drive results.
Between each stimulus and response, there’s a space. There is a choice in that space. It’s possible to stay more connected to the moment if we focus on what we can control and not what we can’t. That’s where all of our power lies. We spend too much time focusing on what we can’t control, such as traffic, weather, or the past. This is rarely a good thing. Focus on the present moment and your own power and you will instantly feel more powerful.
While it is true that pain is inevitable and must be endured, we often forget that pain does not necessarily mean we have to suffer. It’s not what happens to you that matters, but how you respond to it. We can control what we feel about our circumstances even though we cannot control them.
Life is hard but we can all do difficult things. As we set out to do hard things, it’s so important that we’re aware of our subconscious minds, which can accidentally sabotage us. Because they are programmed to protect us, our subconscious minds often try to convince us that difficult things are scary and should be avoided. Sometimes the most meaningful things in life come with a price. This can be hard. Expecting things to be easy can lead to problems. But when we are willing to accept pain, we can make amazing things happen. Accepting that pain is part and parcel of the journey will make you a better person.
Keeping positive during difficult times can be difficult. It’s not uncommon for bad things to happen to us all, and the road to success can seem long. It is often filled with difficult challenges. How you view these moments and what you do with them will determine who you are. You’ll be more successful if you embrace failure, setbacks, and unexpected events and see them as learning opportunities.
These seven Ps have become part of my daily routine and have helped me achieve greater success. I was able to become a marathon runner, a COO and a skier while practicing these seven Ps. I also bought my dream home, found the right partner, and started my own business. These Ps can change any area of your life.
The author of 5 books, 3 of which are New York Times bestsellers. I’ve been published in more than 100 newspapers and magazines and am a frequent commentator on NPR.